Overview Scriptures Church Leaders Learning Resources Media All Topics Same-sex attraction refers to emotional, physical, or sexual attraction to a person of the same gender. The experience of same-sex attraction is not the same for everyone.
The thoughts expressed in this article do not necessarily represent the experience of others who practice Judaism in light of their homosexual inclinations. David Responds where the author addresses some of the many comments regarding this article.
Judaism stresses the importance of teshuva, return, to work on faulty character traits and habits that have obscured our true selves.
But what if you have no healthy sense of self to return to? What if the sense of being at fault, inadequate, is not the aberration but the norm? What if they cut you down, shame you, train you to feel weak and dependent to bolster themselves?
What do you return to then? A distant or belittling father, an emotionally smothering or needy mother, and in the center a boy with nobody to guide him on the path to manhood. A boy for whom manhood has become dangerous, threatening, distant. A boy who grows up feeling different from other boys and men, yet yearns to connect with them, with his own masculinity.
I threw myself at him, climbing into his lap and onto his shoulders.
He threw me in the air, wrestled me, and played with me as my father never did. The adults were vaguely embarrassed at the intensity with which I pursued him; eventually they pulled me away to go to bed. When I passed through the gay world years later as a young man, I found many in the gay community like me: So the search, for many gay men, becomes a series of compulsive, yet fruitless encounters.
Older men, never having found the dream lover that would quiet their inner hunger, and finding their charms fading, would seek out boyish younger men for affairs that parodied real father-son relationships. This arrangement exploited my emotional neediness, and I gloried in being celebrated for my youth and vigor.
The rush of sexual and emotional release created powerful experiences. I finally felt loved and accepted by men. I had grown up with a distorted sense of myself as less than a man. Given the home I came from, it was easy to feel that coming out would mean "coming home" to something better.
Facing the Truth To solve a problem you must admit it exists. From the first kink of self-serving untruth, you can, like a snail, build a crooked little world of your own.
Enmeshed in this physical world, our souls blinkered by limited horizons, we are susceptible to falsehood. In our generation those who struggle with homosexuality have the option of wrapping themselves in the gay liberation narrative. The haunting sense of otherness folds in on itself to become a virtue.
It feels wonderful to finally renounce that sense of being less than a normal man by declaring you are something else entirely. As I saw up close, brave statements do not end the compulsive search for masculinity. There is no resolution, no revelation of true self.
My Struggle So the first step in teshuva is to see clearly that an error has been made. The Torah demands that one verbally admit the transgression, to say it out loud. This is not a confession to anyone else but ourselves.
It sounds simple, but we all justify our errors.Various commentators have, then, argued that the bishoonen are not really 'men' but fantastic, androgynous creatures created by Japanese women as an expression of dissatisfaction with current gender stereotypes and the 'narrow life paths' which restrict women in the real world.
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Same-sex attraction refers to emotional, physical, or sexual attraction to a person of the same gender. The experience of same-sex attraction is not the same for everyone. Some people may feel exclusively attracted to the same gender, while others may feel attracted to both genders.
Orenstein, it is worth noting, is not concerned about the quantity of sex that young women are having. (There is, she points out, no evidence to suggest that rates of sexual intercourse among young people have risen in recent decades. A comprehensive, coeducational Catholic High school Diocese of Wollongong - Albion Park Act Justly, love tenderly and walk humbly with your God Micah